9/21/2016 0 Comments I Was Never Good Enough.
- think you are so stupid how can people even hire you -think you are fat like a cow (I am so sorry cow, you cute! ) Bottom line is that you think YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH. This thought constantly circles me, engulfing me in its negativity, maybe it happens once a week, sometimes 2 days in a row, especially before getting my period ( YES LET'S ALL BLAME IT ON PMS?). It came to a point where I couldn't leave the house without makeup, or at least cover myself in a cap or in sunglasses, I dreaded meeting new people and getting out of the house. It became a HUGE PROBLEM, and I had to make changes. I realised there are 3 main factors to this: 1. I think too much, someone either has an agenda or bad mouthing me, judging me in their minds. I cared too much. 2. I was insecure, I had no confidence. Maybe because I was always compared when I was a child, or the fact I was always told I was ugly when I was younger. Hence I became too critical of myself. 3. I craved for perfection. I was obsessed, I wanted things to be the way I wanted it, and painted the most perfect illusion and when things caved, so did I. It was unhealthy and I was dying (inside at least). It was taking a toll on everyone around me and I felt even worse. So I decided to make that change, it was hard but who said it was going to be easy? As long as you try!REMOVE ALL NEGATIVITY Negative thinking, negative people, negative news, negative drama. If it means unfollowing some people on Facebook and Instagram, or just deactivate it for awhile. yes it sounds like you are running away from your "problems", but I'd rather chill for awhile, and strengthen my heart and emotions, then face it again. Taking a time off doesn't make you seem incompetent, I think its rather wise to look at things out of the situation, its a much clearer view when your mind is not clouded by preset thoughts. So what if somebody says you are childish, or that you are a terrible person for unfollowing them? Remember its your account, you are the owner and you can choose to do whatever you want, you don't have to do something you don't want to. Sometimes we get so tied up in other people lives, their newsfeed, their updates or their stories, we forget who we are and we lose ourselves and that's pretty scary. We'd compare ourselves in someway unconsciously and get frustrated too easily as to why can't we be like them? WHY? because we are not meant to be like them, to follow them, we were meant to create our own paths in life. If that person thinks his/her bluntness is a form of being honest and straightforward and its negativity gets to you, kick them out of your live, being honest and being too judgemental and rude are two very different things. I trust you know how to differentiate the former and the latter. IMPERFECTION IS PERFECTION I thought long and hard as to how to be the perfect person, and then it hit me, a perfect person knows how to do everything, including being imperfect. That's how we know we are human, we aren't machines, we can't regulate everything we do, we are suppose to make mistakes, to fall, to be spontaneous, to not understand, so we can have things to talk about, to laugh about and to learn from. Life is a class full of surprises and tests that the teacher clearly did not teach, but that's how we grow. I learnt to take it easy and be crazy, be who I want to be, and I want to be human, to be imperfectly perfect. To me, life is that photoshoot session, where by at first you have no make up on and terrible eye bags because it was clearly too early for work, and you have a team of people helping you get ready and guiding you, after that you pose on your own, and when you get the hang of it, you become more natural and flawless and picture perfect happens. Picture perfect, effortless but only you know how hard, how tiring it was. What seems picture perfect, may not be that perfect after all. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH AWESOMENESS Sometimes its too darn hard to be positive on your own, you need somebody to help you out, hey we all need help from time to time! I am truly blessed because I am surrounded by amazing people who would always back me up, not afraid to correct me when I am wrong and are willing to hear my complaints as well as counter back negativity with sincere compliments and positivity. Friendship is not determined by time but by heart, by sincerity not by false remarks. I am grateful I have met a bunch of people that took the effort to talk to me when I was too "thin", notice that I have been a tad bit too quiet, go all the way to make sure there was a smile on my face. Friends of 10 years, friends of 6 years, heck friends of a few months, I can't express how lucky I have been, to be presented with the gift of friendship. Never for once try to impress, or fish compliments from temporary guests, insincere people who constantly try to put you down. Its not worth it, save the energy for those who truly loves you, no matter how terrible of a state you are in. IN THE END, you still have to understand the matter of the fact is: it is still YOUR LIFE, YOU BE THE JUDGE! As cliche as it can be, you are beautiful enough, you are smart enough, you are good enough, YOU ARE ENOUGH. After you cry your heart out, shake it off and start again, you are strong enough. One more thing I am currently in a competition, so do feel free to vote for me, if possible everyday ;)
http://ifeel.com.my/igs2016/ifeel-star-search-2016-voting Joyce Harn 洪紫涵 Thank you!
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